By going through this process with Mandy I have learned that I don’t have to feel sad, angry or disgust with myself because I can’t keep up with my regular household chores. I would try to get them all done in one day and then get exhausted and hurt all over or get physically sick. Now I do a little at a time and feel ok about it!
I am learning to concentrate on the things that bring me pleasure and not focus on the things I can’t do anymore because of my chronic pain and fatigue. I’ve learned to stop and think before I volunteer for any projects that I really enjoy and in the past would do automatically. Now if I’m feeling it’s too much for me to handle I’ll say NO, not this time.
My coach was such a tremendous support to me in helping me talk through my feelings and helping me to realize that real friends will like me if I say no. Even if my chores around my house are not done.