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Don’t Give up On Yourself
Recently I found myself looking at my life and thanking the universe. Don’t get me wrong here; I don’t have everything in life. However, I have more than I ever could have imagined. As I went through my gratitude list, I made a special point to look at the things in my life that money can’t buy. When I tallied up confidence, joy, faith, contentment, drive, peace, love, friendship, motherhood, health, kindness, safety, security, passion I mindfully thought about what went into creating those in life. I used to live without any of these, so I had to ask myself, how did these come to be a part of my life and my gratitude list?
Keep showing up and doing my best every day over a long period of time is what I centered on. The time takes time part is essential to the previous statement. It’s showing up over and over again for a long period of time. There have been many times I have encountered, failure, discouragement, defeat, and embarrassment. The thing that made a difference is persistence to keep showing up. I could have given up at the first sign of defeat easily, believe me, I wanted to. So many of the spiritual principals that increase my wellbeing in life have come from years of not giving up. Especially not giving up when I experience a setback. These are often the times when I get to practice self-compassion and self-acceptance. When I apply these, I allow myself internally to be human. Mandy its ok you get to make mistakes, and it’s ok to keep trying. I’m able to reach out when I make a mistake and share my humanness with another usually to find out that they too have made the same mistake.
Failing at a goal is not something to fear it’s honestly the first step before the second. It’s whether we give up at this point or continue that determines the failure. One serious drain on motivation is falling short of achieving a goal and re-centering on being self-critical. When you encounter a set-back ask yourself, how can I approach this in a positive way?
Here’s the deal when you hold a negative perception of yourself it’s no surprise that you will feel quickly defeated when faced with challenges. Each failure, mistake or obstacle will reaffirm what you believe to be true about yourself. It will feel like proof that you can’t win, you’ll never succeed, and that you’re not ok. One way to counter this is to learn how to value yourself more. Not the busy do things for other people you or the sum of your achievements you, but the actual you! Focus on valuing who you are not what you do. What is the aspect of yourself that make you a gift? What are your strengths and passions?
Listen I don’t know what each of your personal goals is. However, I do know that if you give up, you will 100% not achieve them. Keep showing up and realize that when you experience an obstacle that it’s just that, not a reflection of you or your worth. It’s a hurdle and hurdles are meant to be jumped. Keep standing up, keep showing up and never give up on yourself.
So by now, you may be asking yourself ok but how do I do this? When you feel like you have been knocked down and you want to give up you get back up and try again.
Quitting drugs and alcohol, get back up
Starting a business, get back up
Losing weight, get back up
Simplifying your life, get back up
Implementing meditation, get back up
You get back up, be honest with yourself about what worked and what didn’t, try again, find professional help, look for mentors (people who are succeeding at what you want to achieve), set up support and accountability, practice being kind and supportive of yourself, ask for feedback and try again.